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Through years of counseling, Dr. Loev has developed exciting new theories on creating healthy relationships, healing a troubled marriage, as well as attacking the most important social and psychological issues of the day.

Improving Sexual Relations

Couple holding handsThe number of sexless marriages in the United States is shocking. Couples appear to be in denial. Many couples come to see me when there has been little or no intimacy in years. The internet has been a large contributor to this concern.

A second area of concern occurs when one person (the male) has a much greater sex drive than the female. Learn how to deal with this dynamic without letting the difference drag down the marriage with conflict.


Conflict Means I Love You

Are You BLUE or RED? - Sex and the two identities

To resolve conflict in a relationship, it is helpful to consider two distinct relationship types; Blue and Red. We all live according to one relationship type which is identified by the perceptions we experience over and over in a close relationship, and which can lead us to be angry and frustrated with the other person. Knowing the characteristics of these types helps you to better understand your own relationshp identity and the perceptions of your partner. What would happen if you knew what your spouse might be thinking, especially what angers them? Wouldn't that give you a greater advantage to solve or avoid conflicts?

Dr. Loev has written an informative and timely book, which enables readers to better understand themselves, as well as their partner. The much in-demand book is entitled "Conflict Means I Love You."

Conflict Means I Love You book
Conflict Means I Love You

This book describes interaction. Also learn why particular men have a greater sex drive than their partner and what to do about it. Relationships are essential to our lives. Better understanding of our needs and the needs of our partner enables us to increase our chances of success and satisfaction.

Learn why we choose who we do and how to make this relationship the best IT can be. Tips on all aspects of a relationship are offered. How to connect better emotionally as well as sexually.

Recovering from the Extra-Marital Affair

The incidence of extra marital affairs is growing. Social media facilitates the opportunity to engage in behaviors like flirting or more with the opposite sex. What rules should couples enforce to avoid this painful experience? Once mistakes are made can couples recover?

There are key stages in the recovery process. If you believe your marriage is worth saving, professional guidance can make a difference. The national average of couples that recover is 35%. Dr. Loev has a recovery rate of 97% among the couples he sees.

Many relationships become better as a result of engaging on a course of self discovery. With his unique approach, Dr. Loev can help you and your partner come to a new understanding.

Dealing with a Bipolar Personality

There are approximately 6 million people in the Unites States diagnosed with bipolar disorder. There is also a sizable number of people who have a bipolar disorder dormant in their system.

Bipolar people face many unique challenges to experience satisfying relationships at work, in love, and with others.

Dr. Loev has constructed a unique model to enable people to better cope with this disorder. To understand this disorder, you first must conceptualize it. This model becomes the cornerstone of our counseling. Cognitive therapy is used to further increase the individuals ability to lead a more harmonious life.

Bipolar Marriage Support Center

Bipolar couples are reported to have a 90% divorce rate. Because of this staggering statistic Dr. Irv Loev, Ph.D. created the Bipolar Marriage Support Center to meet the unique needs of bipolar couples. Counseling focuses exclusively on bipolar marital issues for individuals, couples, or groups of people dealing with a bipolar person. Dr. Loev has a variety of breakthrough treatment approaches developed to assist couples to be successful in their relationships. These unique methods help the bipolar person understand their own actions, motivations and life choices in such a way that new behavior comes naturally and change is significant.

For many, the bipolar disorder goes undiagnosed or lies dormant in the person to appear later after a trauma. Dr. Loev recognizes that the incidence of bipolar disorders are on the rise. Consequently, we can all benefit from a better understanding of bipolar behavior and learn to appreciate our relationships for the energy, enthusiasm and intelligence our bipolar friends and loved ones possess.

Dr. Loev believes that a counselor or therapist needs to be honest about the fact that working with some people or populations is more enjoyable than others. For Dr. Loev it is the bipolar population, whom he finds to be very intelligent, quick to make associations and most of all motivated to improve their lives.

Dr. Loev is convinced that when the bipolar individual learns to understand to recognize their own tendencies, their lives change dramatically for the better.

Dr. Loev's Bipolar Model
The model below is a metaphor to better understand the bipolar personality.

bipolar model

Think of an atom. You are the center and the dots circling you are the protons. Protons are always in motion. If they speed up, this means you are starting to feel anxious. When the protons move too rapidly, your anxiety can transfer to hostility. Awareness of the speed helps the bipolar person recognize when they need to remove themselves from a situation.

Many of Dr. Loev's therapies are outlined in his book Conflict Means I Love You.

BiPolar Class

Join us for a special bipolar program for the spouse of the bipolar, relative of a bipolar person, or business associate of a bipolar person. If you think you may have a bipolar disorder, this class will help you decide.

To register, please call 210-397-8100. The cost is $40.00.

The Effects of Childhood Abandonment on Adult Relationships

Abandonment can take many forms. The time of its occurrence is extremely critical.  Dr. Loev believes that abandonment that occurs before the age of ten will have a much bigger impact than if experienced in the later teens.

The different forms of abandonment include: a parent dying, having a parent who is emotionally unavailable, or when parents divorce and one parent does not value a relationship with the child and does not stay involved in the child's life.

Dr. Loev has counseled many adults experiencing difficulty forming healthy relationships who discover a link to this childhood trauma. Many have difficulty committing to a permanent relationship and they may resist by building emotional walls that lead to frequent breakups. Others who are happily married, are working to understand why they are compelled to have extramarital affairs.

Typically people with relationship problems do not realize their issues sometimes stem from fear of being abandoned. In most cases, recognizing their motivations, and learning healthy connections with a parent, sibling or other relatives helps them acknowledge their fears and overcome them. Dr. Loev's unique instruction helps patients recognize their previous influences and move forward.

Dr. Loev shares several case histories of patients with Childhood Abandonment issues in his book Conflict Means I Love You.

Stopping Compulsive Internet Behavior

Frequently sexual desires are forged in the formative years. What may result if a male child is exposed to pornographic images at ages 7 through 14? These experiences can be very destructive.

A child may grow older preferring these same sexual stimuli. Often it is hard for the child as an adult to have mature sexual experiences with a partner. The result can be compulsive behavior on the internet.

This path can be very painful to a marriage. Clinical counseling can enable the gentleman to learn a new path while better understanding how the original path was chosen.

A prescription for success and how to avoid disappointment

Americans are spending more and more time of their lives in the workplace. As a result, emerging issues such as work burn-out, dealing with difficult people, and succeeding at office politics are becoming increasingly important towards having a more satisfying life.

Difficult people have become a drain in our lives. You need to better understand them so that they do not become a burden in your life and ruin your job satisfaction. Many companies fear the legal consequences of firing low-achieving employees. The result is having these employees work next to you or having to depend on them to accomplish your job. The consequences create workplace stress!

Because of this, anger management is developing into a more and more serious and frequent problem. You can learn how to reduce it in yourself, as well as help others. Learn how to avoid work burn-out and to recognize the early warning signs.

Additional Workplace Coping Topics:
1. Learning office politics for first-borns
2. What to say and do to get a raise
3. Take Dr. Loev's unique Career Guidance & Personality Test
to determine which Career is right for you

Husbands and Wives who Work Together
Because of various legal and financial pressures, husbands and wives are finding themselves working together in greater numbers than ever. Spousal-run companies can be utilized for the betterment of the company.

However, couples who work together bring unique problems to the workplace. They have different personalities and normally see doing things in different ways. Dr. Loev presents a theory of personality types which illuminate a better understanding of how couples can be a more productive team. Learn how your mate thinks and what to say or do to make them a more satisfied business partner.

Additional Marriage-in-the-Workplace Topics:
1. Using Dr. Loev's unique theory of marital personality types
2. Learn to reduce conflict related to the workplace
3. Learn when you should or should not include your spouse in the workplace

Vocational Testing

Discover a New Rewarding Career

Vocational testing isn't only for college graduates. Many people today faced with dead-end jobs, difficult bosses and overall job insecurity are elated to be able to discover a new, more rewarding career.

What vocational testing can do is reveal options for a career that may not have occured to you before. For instance, you may not realize that you are best suited for a structured environment. Or you may find the most satisfaction working alone, rather than being in charge of a group.

There are three main areas to consider. One involves the field of science, such as working in a marine biologist lab. Another comes under the heading of moral, such as civic work. And the third field involves the working with numbers, such as a product design engineer.

Irv Loev has constructed an in-depth vocational test that combines several successful tests used over the span of his experience--helping people of all ages come to a new understanding of the ideal area of work based on their core personality.

This New Career Test is updated with segments that speak to the contemporary job market, and it has been successfully used by clients as recently as early 2018. The results are very conclusive!

Choosing a career can be one of the most important decisions of your life. Vocational testing will steer you in the right direction. And if you find yourself wondering if you may have made a wrong career choice, vocational testing is the answer to right your course.

Session 1 : BACKGROUND - 55 minutes - $50.00 You complete the test and return it at your leisure.

Session 2 : DISCOVERY - 1 hour -$60.00 You will leave with a new perspective on your ideal career!

Call 210-340-0270 to schedule the unique Irv Loev Vocational Test.